The Idea of Being Wanted

Feeling wanted is something that we aren't necessarily born with. Wanting yes, as kids we want everything toddlers cry, kids scream, teens act out, adults we get or hate others for having what we want. But feeling wanted is a devil in a gift box once received its a beautiful gift with the face of a loving puppy. Usually this is given to us through romantic means but it could also come from friendship as I've experienced as well. It's such an amazing feeling and once you've had a taste its like a drug you want more. It comes with many small other tokens as well like when you buy perfume or make up and they give you all the free samples. Some of those samples being finding a meaning to life, having someone else around for company, being accepted, etc.. The problem is when that person who made you feel wanted inevitably leaves for one reason or another you withdrawal. That demon finally shows you its face. As soon as that happens all those free samples run out too. Theres no longer a meaning to your life because you invested so much time and effort into another human. Theres no longer someone around to be with out of obligation and want. There is no longer a feeling of being unconditionally accepted when it turns out it was conditional, or so it feels. Why is it that other people can make our world and then shatter it? It seems as though its in our nature doesn't it? I don't think so... unpopular opinion maybe but nature has nothing to do with this. If nature was the root it would be dog eat dog no fucks given. Feeling wanted would be nothing because survival is more important. No, the root of this is something else how we are raised, our society, our environment. The world revolves around everyone but you; that may sound wrong because it always perceived as the opposite: "the world only revolves around you." Both are too extreme to be any good. Theres no balance there. As individuals we need to put ourselves first in our own world that doesn't mean that you make everything about you. It means you care for yourself first above all else. You have to put on your oxygen mask before you can even think about trying to help anyone else with theirs. Being wanted should be a gift.... a gift to our self from us. If anyone else adds to that so be it; it feels nice but if they go they can't take away what you made for yourself. Self love, Self care, Self acceptance, Self meaning, and Self company. Being okay within ourself is the most important step to any relationship, life, and overall well being. Without it there will always be something missing even at the best moments. Its a hard idea to practice trust I know but in order for me or anyone to attempt to try there needs to be a  belief that its possible even when it doesn't seem so.